To be a woman of mystery is to have a fascinating presence. This woman that draws people into her presence. She has an aura about her that people cannot stay away from. There is an art to having such a presence.
As a woman in today’s time, there is a substantial demand for us to take on more than we should have to. We are a providers, protectors, and leaders. Having said that some of us struggle with maintaining a feminine presence. It is not easy trying to do it all while trying to maintain a sense of softness about yourself.
As a woman, we have good masculine and feminine energy. Many believe a woman has to be either masculine or feminine. I believe it is possible to have a balance of both. In addition, keep in mind that the many roles you play in life may require either more masculine or feminine traits or energy. The key is to understand when to turn one on or the other off. Of course, this all depends on the circumstances or environment you are in.
Moreover, you may find it difficult to know when you need more of your masculine or feminine energy. It’s important as a woman to be in control of this. For example, it may be great for the workplace as a manager to reprimand someone for doing something wrong. It wouldn’t be best to reprimand your husband for not taking out the trash. It’s all about balancing the two. Maybe you have a toxic family that requires more masculine energy, you may constantly have to defend yourself. Well just know that it’s okay because I am going to tell you how to change that. So how do I become a woman of mystery you may be asking, well keep reading.
Three tips on how to be a mysterious woman:
1. Set boundaries
As a woman of mystery, you need to set boundaries. To set boundaries, it’s vital that you know your self-worth. You need to know that you are worth the time, effort, and energy that a relationship needs. You should not let just anyone have direct access to you 24/7 without limitations It’s important to set boundaries in conversations as well. The questions you ask someone you are just meeting should be respectful and not invasive neither should the questions they ask you.
In addition, to be a woman of mystery, you should not only value your time but also the time of others. You must know your value; this depicts how people will value and respect you. Once this is established, people will be more reserved around you and respect you when in your presence. They feel this is the respectful and right thing to do.
2. Listen and observe
According to data on dataportal.com, the average person spends 4 hours and 48 minutes on their smartphone. This has greatly shortened our attention span which was already very short to begin with. Despite this, it’s important to actively listen to who is speaking to you.
I know many women that overshare. They love to tell every single detail about their life to everyone they meet whether they trust the person or not. I find that to be quite peculiar. Why would you want to tell someone you don’t know intimate details about your life? People love talking about themselves, so let them do the talking. Just be sure to actively listen and engage when it’s appropriate.
It’s better to actively listen and observe than to be the one always speaking. This will leave the person you are in conversation with eager to learn more about you. They will realize they’ve done all the talking and don’t know much about you. They will be curious. The key to being a woman of mystery is never let anyone know too much about you. By saying little it keeps them wanting to know more.
3. How you dress matters
As a woman of mystery, it’s important to present yourself with class. You don’t want to be conspicuous with the way you walk, talk, and most importantly dress. Nowadays so many women want to look the same whether it’s their hair, body figure, or the way they dress.
Be unique and stand out from the crowd. Instead of flaunting everything you have, try to balance the look. For example, if you are wearing a low-cut top pair it with trousers or a pair of jeans. This way you look classy and don’t look like you’re trying too hard. I’m not saying you can’t look sexy and show some skin just make it classy. Wearing less is not best. We are and always will be judged by our appearance.
Remember as a woman of mystery you want there to be something special about you and one way is to not show all the goods to everybody. This not only shows you have respect for yourself but keeps them wondering. They want to know what more you may have that you’re not showing. Keep them guessing.
